Confidence, balance, moderation and limit pushing.
One of the beautiful things about life is that you have choices. You have decisions you make according to your goals, personality, your passion, your successes and your failures.
Crossfit is a very interesting community with very interesting social psychology. The social dynamics affect us in several different ways, sometimes they challenge us and sometimes stifle us. How it affects you is primarily up to you. Of course there are other players, we are front and center though. Obviously most people who are part of a Crossfit gym are enjoying the dynamic and challenges on several different levels.
Which brings me to my main point COMPETITION !
It's definitely a part of the CF dynamic. It plays a significant part. It's not soley based on some obnoxious beat down of your fellow CF people . It's also not about beating yourself up every single time you do a workout. If that's the case, your passion for CF is either very short lived or you destination is the competition arena.
Everyone cooks in some fashion or another. How much salt you put in your food is your call. You probably have a good idea of how much you like or don't like. Sometimes you probably miss the mark with either too much or to0 little. It happens, you'll find the balance. Every once in a while you might go a little wild and spice things up or take it down a notch.
Every now and then a healthy does of the race, the push, is a healthy flush for your physical self. Question is how often? Some people want to smack down others and themselves every time. Constantly comparing themselves to others or yesterday. This is the equivalent of eating a donut for dinner everyday it's unbalanced, not healthy. Others close their eyes because they don't want to see what anyone is doing around them because it will make them feel bad about themselves.
There are other examples but both of these are based in EGO!
Currently we have a few competitive events happening. I'm very cautious about adding or not adding competition to our gym. I try to have just enough to push the limits, but not so much to become emotionally unhealthy for all the different personalities.
In the end you add "salt" as needed. Your choice is respected. There are times however that you take the push, challenge yourself to mentally enjoy the push in a safe way. Or maybe you need to hold the "salt" in your hand, draw back and see that moderation will lead you more safely to your goals.
Here's the beauty in all of this, you're being mentally, physically and emotionally challenged which leads to becoming a well rounded athlete, employee, parent, etc.!